Happy Valentine’s Day to all the 5and2 guys and gals out there!!! A very heartfelt Happy Valentine’s Day from the 5and2Guy. Any special plans for that special person in your life? Maybe dinner, a night of dancing, or maybe something as simple as “Netflix and chill?” No matter what the plan is, you have to have a plan.
“I love my wife every day, not just Valentine’s Day. I show her every day.”
This was something one of my buddies said when I asked him his plans for Valentine’s Day. Of course you love your wife every day and so do I, but you still need a plan. What do I mean? If you don’t think you need a plan, let the day go by and see what happens. You have to have a plan, even if it is just a, “Happy Valentine’s Day beautiful. Would you like to go out tonight or just want to chill in and spend time together?” Even saying this is a recognition of the day.
Recognition of the day and the people you love is important. Your spouse or special person in your life may say it doesn’t matter, but it does. At least it does for the majority of people. I guess there are the exceptions, to every rule and there may be some that truly don’t care. But we are talking about the majority and making the majority happy. If you don’t recognize your special person on Valentine’s Day, I feel like you are being lazy. There would have to be some extreme circumstances to keep you from having a plan, else you may find yourself in the proverbial dog house.
You Still Need A Plan
I understand that today is Monday, most of us have work in the morning. Kids still had school today and have school tomorrow. Life continues whether it is Valentine’s Day or not. I get it, I really do, but you still need a plan. It doesn’t have to be a grand plan that knocks their socks off, but there has to be a plan. You may find that your spouse has surprised you with something special today. That’s awesome, but you still need a plan. You have to have something that shows the person you love that you took the time and thought about them. You appreciate them enough to take the time to come up with something that shows them how much you love them.
A Few Ideas:
Here are a few ideas that you could do to recognize that special person in your life:
1. If they typically make dinner, you can surprise them with dinner at home. You will cook the meal and serve them. You will send them off for a relaxing bath, with bubbles and candles, while you clean up. Give them a night off. They will appreciate it.
2. Write your significant other a love letter. Copy a poem from a book of poetry and put it in your letter. Pour your heart into it. Tell them, in written words, how much they mean to you.
3. Turn the day into a real holiday. Take the day off work. Spend the day in bed watching movies with love stories.
4. Get dressed up and go out on the town for dinner and a movie. Take pictures and post them on social media to show how much you love each other.
5. Create a romantic treasure hunt, with little gifts or teases along the hunt. This will keep things exciting and build suspense!!!
Love Is An Investment
If you want to see something grow, you have to invest in it. And love is no different. Ask yourself this…how much do I invest in my significant other? Do you give them undivided attention when they talk? Do you tell them you love them regularly? Do you do anything special, for no reason at all? The happiest relationships are ones that do the little things and don’t get stuck in a rut. Ones that keep things a bit exciting. Ones of mutual love and respect. Imagine if you worked as hard on your relationships as you do on your job. That would pay dividends if you did, unless you are lousy at your job…hehe.
My point here is that if you want the love between you and your significant other to grow, you have to invest in it regularly. You have to do the little things that are easy to do, but are seldom done. Make it a point to remind yourself to do something special. Go out of your way to bring some joy to their lives. Give them your undivided attention and put your phone away when they are talking to you. Many people say their loved ones comes first but fail to show it. You have to show it in order to grow it!!!
Though I agree with my friend that we need to show our spouses we love them everyday, I think we need to do a little bit more on special days like Valentine’s Day. A little something extra or different that says, “As the world celebrates love, I am celebrating you.” Be thankful for that special person in your life. Show them how much they mean to you and don’t settle to let this day go by without showing your love in some special way. It doesn’t take a big grand gesture, but you have to do something. Make it a point, to pause everything else but you and your significant other, even if it is only for a short amount of time. It’s a special day, so show that person they are special!!!